How badly do you want it?

I was complaining to a friend that I can’t jump (no, you cliche-loving pop-culture aficionado, I’m not a white man but it can apply to asian females just as well!) This inability was particularly frustrating in a class taught by young athletic instructors who made it look so easy, and thereby increased my sense of clumsiness. I kept reminding myself of all the reasons why they could do it and I couldn’t. And my friend simply asked me… “How badly do you want it?” Needless to say, that’s the last time I complained about that particular non-achievement! (Now if I just stopped complaining, period, I’d demoralize everyone by implying my life is perfect, so for the sake of others’ happiness I selflessly persevere :P)

Thomas Edison said “If we all did the things we are really capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.

Research blows the “oh s/he is naturally better at it” theory out of the water by demonstrating that people become “expert” at certain things because they just plain worked at it. Long and hard. Actually, it’s been measured. 10,000 hours of practice. That’s a lot of time to be away from other fun stuff. Like perpetually changing my status on facebook. Or having a conversation with my pillow. Or trying to keep all the pop-culture trivia (such as Jay Leno’s car and bike collection) straight in my head to win the next game of “taboo”.

I wish I coud un-learn this. It was SO much easier (and therapeutic) to just plain be a “victim” and complain. Ah the good ol’ days!

9 responses to “How badly do you want it?

  1. 10,000 hours? r u kidding me? seems like i ll remain the jack then :\

  2. I actually agree with teh research, but I think it takes less than 10,000 hours.

    No such thing as “naturally good”. On in exceptional circumstances maybe.

    Some quote from a movie (which stays on my MSN as well) goes: I beleive in everything, for everything is possible.

    That line kinda stuck to me, and is a part of how I live.

  3. JonyBr: thx for visiting and at the risk of repeating myself… “how badly do you want it?” πŸ™‚

    X: yes I read that quote on your blog and it really “hit the spot” in resonating with me πŸ™‚ thx for sharing your life motto

  4. I live in moments Mutarjam, depends on that particular second how badly i want it, but then again, right after that moment there is another, and in that, i might not.

  5. Good for you JonyBr πŸ™‚ As they say, “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away!”

    May you have many such moments, and enjoy living in each one.

  6. cheesy but true. So you guys do not beleive in “natural talent”?

  7. Hi Shez! Thx for dropping by πŸ™‚ IMHO, of course some people may have natural talent for certain things, e.g. people having or not having a sense of rhythm, but the focus/ point here is that people don’t become exceptional at something without tons of effort, regardless of the talent they may or may not have had.

  8. Umm…u mean that I dun have a talent for messing up?? I actually work at it?? :O

  9. Perhaps a bit of both Aftab? πŸ˜›

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