I was complaining to a friend that I can’t jump (no, you cliche-loving pop-culture aficionado, I’m not a white man but it can apply to asian females just as well!) This inability was particularly frustrating in a class taught by young athletic instructors who made it look so easy, and thereby increased my sense of clumsiness. I kept reminding myself of all the reasons why they could do it and I couldn’t. And my friend simply asked me… “How badly do you want it?” Needless to say, that’s the last time I complained about that particular non-achievement! (Now if I just stopped complaining, period, I’d demoralize everyone by implying my life is perfect, so for the sake of others’ happiness I selflessly persevere :P)
Thomas Edison said “If we all did the things we are really capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.”
Research blows the “oh s/he is naturally better at it” theory out of the water by demonstrating that people become “expert” at certain things because they just plain worked at it. Long and hard. Actually, it’s been measured. 10,000 hours of practice. That’s a lot of time to be away from other fun stuff. Like perpetually changing my status on facebook. Or having a conversation with my pillow. Or trying to keep all the pop-culture trivia (such as Jay Leno’s car and bike collection) straight in my head to win the next game of “taboo”.
I wish I coud un-learn this. It was SO much easier (and therapeutic) to just plain be a “victim” and complain. Ah the good ol’ days!